When I start a sentence with “I have to,” “I should,” or “I ought to,” that is a clear warning bell to me that I either being codependent or emotionally blackmailed, and am being sent on a guilt trip.
Does respecting someone mean that I should rescue them from the consequences of the choices and decisions that they have made? It has taken me a long time to understand that when I rescue others I am actually robbing them of respect. I am cheating them out of an opportunity to learn and grow in their own spiritual journey.
Sometimes the guilt I might initially feel, I later discover is actually emotional blackmail. I am being made to feel that “I should” do this or that because this is what the other person expects from me. I am learning that it is my primary responsibility to take care of myself and protect myself and my home/family from outward emotional drama and manipulation.
Keeping the focus on myself actually allows me to release other people to solve their own problems and frees me to find contentment and even happiness in my own life without the emotional guilt trip of "should, ought to, and have to."
Content Originally Published By: Amy T. @ Blogspot.com
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