Veterans Cross Boundaries For A Living

10 November 2016 Written by 

Veterans have defended our borders and were deployed overseas to cross enemy lines. They also crossed boundaries that would never be permitted in civilian life. Boundaries keep us safe at home. How does breaking civilian boundaries in the military make it difficult to return to normal at home. Drs. Cloud and Townsend explain in their book Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No, to Take Control of Your Life:

Many clinical psychological symptoms, such as: depression, anxiety disorders, eating disorders, addictions, impulsive disorders, guilt problems, sharing issues, panic disorders, marital and relational struggles find their root in conflicts with boundaries.

Members of our armed forces use tactics of war to take on terrorists and drug czars. What does the day-to-day stress of service in war look like? Here's Col. Jessup’s famous description from A Few Good Men, which was based on a Git-mo (Guantanamo Bay) code red:

Son, we live in a world that has walls, and those walls have to be guarded by men with guns. Who's gonna do it? You? You, Lt. Weinburg? I have a greater responsibility than you could possibly fathom… And my existence, while grotesque and incomprehensible to you, saves lives. You don't want the truth because deep down in places you don't talk about at parties, you want me on that wall, you need me on that wall.

Boundaries often need to be protected or disregarded. Veterans face both sides of this equation and suffer the consequences. From RAND, of the 2.7 million Iraq and Afghanistan veterans: 

  • 20% suffer from PTSD and/or depression
  • 50% of the veterans who suffer from PTSD seek treatment, and then only half of them get "minimally adequate" treatment
  • 14% suffer from post-traumatic stress disorder; 39% from alcohol abuse; 3% from drug abuse
  • 5,000 to 8,000 veterans commit suicide each year, equaling 22 veteran suicides every day
  • Almost 50,000 veterans are homeless per the National Alliance to End Homelessness

Let’s take just a few minutes not just on Veteran’s Day, but every day to thank the brave men and women in our military, who happen also to be our family, members. Thank you for your love of country and family and service to the great United States of America,. God Bless you all.

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In my family of origin, three of us are in treatment for codependency, drugs, and/or alcohol abuse. Two of us are in denial about the devastating effects codependency, drugs, and alcohol have had on our family. None of us are talking about it. I’m the codependent one on a quest for healthy living through love and boundaries. My journey started in Celebrate Recovery. I have much to learn and practice. I live with my wonderful husband, amazing son, and pseudo-therapy beagle, Spot. I enjoy long walks on the beach and writing about the life-changing principles I’m learning in the rooms of recovery.
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