First Find Love
Being a widow with five adult children, each dealing with the loss of their father from Alcohol Use Disorder, I sometimes feel in need of a little love. I feel rejected when my son, Melvin, threatens to block my number. I am overwhelmed when my youngest daughter, Madison, struggles to build healthy relationship skills. Like any mother I can get pulled in by the needs of my children no matter how old they are. When feeling low, I remember to look for love in all the right places:
- I can look in a mirror, give myself a big hug, and say, "I love you!"
- I can go to an Al-Anon meeting and absorb the love of the group
- I can talk to my Higher Power and let the love of this Spiritual Being fill me up
- I can take myself and a friend out to dinner and talk over a shared dessert
- I can simply pick up my phone and call someone and say I need a little love right now
- I can take myself to a funny movie and laugh with complete strangers in the dark
- I can get a massage if I need to have healthy physical touch
- I can do a yoga class or follow one on You Tube
Love is a wonderful ingredient in life and can be found anytime, even in the dark times. If you are feeling down this year join me in opening your heart to love. I am loved even if I am all alone. I tell my sponsees, "No man will ever love me more than I love myself. If I find a man that does, it is a sign that I need to improve my self care."
Then Give Love Away
In Al-Anon I read a book, "I Got Better, When I Got Busy." I learned my recovery gets stronger when I share myself with others. I can spread my love this Valentine's Day by:
- Calling or even better visiting one or more friends
- Buying some Valentine Treats for my neighbors
- Writing small love notes to my other four children
- Taking flowers to a friend who is grieving
This Valentine’s Day remember an important aspect of love is that it is shared. How will you share love this year?
A Reach Out Recovery Exclusive By: Madeline Schloop