At first many will say they see a mom who has lost control of four naughty children and in need of a long rest and possibly a housekeeper. After years of being critical of my own mothering skills, I have learned a new way of looking at life, others and myself. With more compassion than complaint for perceived failures.
Recently a viral video of a mother of six dragging one of her sons off the streets of Baltimore, screaming at him for throwing bricks at police officers, has gripped the nation. Suddenly she is a great mom and a hero, yet she is in truth just being a mom. She has her good days and her not good days. No mom wants to be embarrassed by her children’s actions, but when the child makes poor choices, it is often done in the public eye though mothers would prefer it were not seen by anyone else.
So when I look at this picture of an exhausted mom, I see food in the refrigerator which means she shopped and put food away. I see cared-for children exploring their environment; climbing the walls so to speak, stealing cake; and a dog being fed. I see a woman utterly overwhelmed--but only for a moment. It is not the way life works for her all the time. I see a mom who will gather her wits about her and tidy up in time for dinner. Or else she will take a much needed nap and let the house be messy. After all she has four children. Whether tidy or disorganized, no one's perfect or should be. Perfection is too big a burden for any mom to carry on this or any other day. Happy Mother’s Day to all Moms out there doing the best they can. No judgment for you this Mother’s Day, only appreciation from all of us at ROR.