Anger that is not dealt with in healthy ways will come out “sideways” as sarcasm or constant criticism. Sarcasm is mocking, sharp, bitter, cutting – a taunt that ridicules, mocks, and is spoken contemptuously. It is couched in disdain and scorn.
Sarcasm is not an innocuous way of making a joke. If you are the brunt of derision, scorn, mockery, etc., how could this possibly feel okay? And yet, people who are close to us sometimes use sarcasm in their communication. Sarcasm reflects anger and frustration.
This type of passive-aggressive behavior is very destructive. It hurts others. There is an undercurrent of anger and rage that causes pain and hurt with every sarcastic jab. If I speak up to the passive-aggressive user of sarcasm, I might get this response: “Can’t you take a joke?” This individual takes pleasure in provoking others with their use of sarcasm, and then feigns shock when they get a reaction. The response they give is, “Why are you getting so upset? You are over-reacting!”
Sarcasm is hidden hostility and mean-spirited. It’s important to recognize it for what it is – it’s abusive. If someone tosses me a ball, I don’t have to catch it. Sometimes it’s best just to walk away.
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