Say What You Mean, But Don't Say it Mean

26 March 2015 Written by 

“Say what you mean, and mean what you say…..but don’t say it mean.” A good slogan, but challenging to carry out.

I am still learning that any message can be conveyed with courtesy, even one of outrage. If I treat others with courtesy when I am speaking my mind and heart, they are much more likely to hear what I have to say.

I also need to be careful about my tone of voice when speaking. My words may speak one thing, but my tone of voice is one of contempt. This is a way of communicating anger without taking personal responsibility for it. I call this passive aggressive behavior.

If I want others to hear what I have to say with courtesy, then I must first extend that same courtesy to them. 

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Amy T.

Raised on a dairy farm in upstate NY, I learned to work hard along with my five siblings. I grew up in a very conservative Mennonite-Amish church which shaped a lot of my fundamental core values and beliefs. After moving to Florida to attend college, I married and became mother to five children. Eventually, my unmanageable life came to a crashing halt and I found my way into an Al-Anon recovery program. Recovery has affected every area of my life and I love sharing the things I am learning with others so that they might also find hope for their own recovery.
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