Recovery Parenting 101 Mother's Day Credo

09 May 2014 Written by 

I have heard it said, “The Ocean is made up of Mothers’ tears.” I tend to believe many of those tears are shed in the world of recovery and addiction. Having lived with a spouse who suffered with alcoholism and watching my children struggle with the effects of it I have certainly shed my share of tears.

Mothers have cried seemingly endless tears trying to save their children from the disease of alcoholism or addiction. Mothers battle for their children’s lives the best way they can. Many tears fall as they desperately try to get their children “ to see the light.” They are often shocked when encouraged to  “Let Go and Let God.”

Let go of a precious child? No matter how much pain mothers suffer, they know that underneath all that anger and addiction their children are still in there somewhere. Mothers can no more let go than to stop breathing.

Slowly mothers in recovery learn that to Let Go is not to abandon, rather it is a tool save their children. If they continue to hold on they will harm both themselves and their children. When mothers let go, their children can finally feel the disease’s full effects on their life. But the real beauty of letting go is the freedom moms feel when they get their lives back as well. Meeting our own responsibilities to ourselves too often are long neglected.

The rest of the slogan is Let God. When we let go we have the confidence to know our children are falling into the hands of a Loving God. When we Let Go we allow our children’s Higher Power to work in their lives.

On this Mother’s Day I don’t want any Mother in the Recovery Community to feel strange because she didn’t get her “happily ever after" or that she has no reason to celebrate Mother’s Day.  You are not alone. Most of us didn’t get our own “happily ever” after either. The beauty of recovery I believe is:

  • Accepting what life has handed us.
  • Accepting where our Child is today.
  • Allowing our Children the dignity of choosing their own path.
  • Knowing we are all doing the best we can and that tomorrow our best will hopefully be a little bit better.
  • Letting go while knowing our Higher Power will never Let Go.

 Happy Mother’s Day to all the Mothers out there working hard to “Let Go and Let God.” You are loved and appreciated more than you will ever know.

 A Reach Out Recovery Exclusive By: Madeline Schloop

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Madeline Schloop

Madeline is the widow of a man who died of alcoholism and the mother of 5 young adults whom she parents with the tools of Al-Anon. Her children continue to be affected by the disease of alcoholism. Her stories  deal with life's daily trials and what has and hasn't worked.
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