Perspective Tames The Epic In Me

08 September 2015 Written by 

 With Addiction In the Family Perspective Changes An Epic Story Into A Manageable Collection of Memories

I confess I turn to  Courage To Change for the Daily Reading to get me grounded. That's an important part of Al Anon--keeping connected with the journey of recovery through many different eyes and many different situations. Courage to Change is a tiny bible for looking at life. This entry got me thinking.

” I have a tendency to think of my experience with alcoholism as an epic, technicolor movie, an extravaganza with my name in lights on the marquee, but it’s not really like that It’s really just home movies. I came to this program with a story to tell that seemed to splash across every inch of very wide screen. I told it and told it, until one day I noticed that I was sitting in a room with others, showing home movies."

That Got Me Thinking About The Similarity of Everyone's Home Movies

As I contemplated this idea I had to laugh, because if you have ever seen another family’s home movies they look surprisingly similar to your own. The faces are different, but the scenes are shockingly similar: the Christmas tree, the family picnic, the kids running around at a birthday party. Our stories are quite similar at times.

How Is The Recovery Home Movie Different

In recovery we have a story to tell, and we often feel as if it is an original, one of a kind that no one has ever seen before. Yet when we come to Al-Anon we discover our story has been told many times before. Our story is hardly original, and not one of a kind at all. Many in Al-Anon find that commonality a wonderful comfort. We are not alone. We all share a common theme and challenge in our lives, and know exactly how hard the journey has been for each and every one of us. It is this common thread that binds us together in the fellowship. We are not mega stars in a horror movie; we are folks showing our own home movies. Behind the smiles are hidden some secrets and a darker reality. Sharing the stories and telling the truth in a safe place helps us achieve both perspective and the freedom we need to let go and leave the past behind for a better future.  

Taming the Epic In My Thinking

So the next time a big dramatic moment comes to my life, I know it will one day be downgraded from a hurricane to a brief summer downpour. That makes all the hard moments so much easier to accept.

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Madeline Schloop

Madeline is the widow of a man who died of alcoholism and the mother of 5 young adults whom she parents with the tools of Al-Anon. Her children continue to be affected by the disease of alcoholism. Her stories  deal with life's daily trials and what has and hasn't worked.
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