No Need To Explain Or Justify

15 September 2016 Written by 

One of the things I have learned in recovery is that I am not obligated to explain myself to others. I don’t have to explain myself or justify my actions to others, as if I were in a court of law.

What’s interesting is that the people I am attempting to offer an explanation to probably wouldn’t understand anyway. A slogan I enjoy which applies this principle is: “Rational + Irrational = Irrational. It’s impossible to have rational dialogue with someone who is irrational, closed-minded, or spiritually asleep.

Others will only “hear” what they want to hear, not necessarily what I am saying. If I am feeling compelled to explain myself, is that motivated out of fear or a need for personal validation? Am I wanting to control the outcome?

Here are some things I have learned:

  • It’s okay to be misunderstood
  • Others’ views of my opinions don’t diminish my worth
  • I can choose to let it go and simply stand in my own truth

I am free to be me without explanation or justification to others. There is no need to explain.

Content Originally Published By: Amy Turon @ Blogspot



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Amy T.

Raised on a dairy farm in upstate NY, I learned to work hard along with my five siblings. I grew up in a very conservative Mennonite-Amish church which shaped a lot of my fundamental core values and beliefs. After moving to Florida to attend college, I married and became mother to five children. Eventually, my unmanageable life came to a crashing halt and I found my way into an Al-Anon recovery program. Recovery has affected every area of my life and I love sharing the things I am learning with others so that they might also find hope for their own recovery.
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