Healing Relationships Need Honest Communication

08 May 2017 Written by 

I grew up in a home environment that lacked communication skills. What typically took place instead was passive aggressive behavior.

Passive aggressive behavior is generally described as expressing negative feelings, resentment, and aggression in an unassertive passive way. Instead of communicating honestly when I feel upset, annoyed, irritated, or disappointed, I make the choice to “act out.”

Acting out can include things like giving the silent treatment, angry looks, sulking, evading, avoiding, procrastinating, becoming a victim, self-pity, blaming, making wistful statements, giving backhanded compliments, sarcasm, feigned ignorance, sabotage, or deliberately insulting someone and pretending you didn’t know you insulted them.

Passive aggressive behavior is a form of emotional abuse which erodes relationships and trust, creating an atmosphere of negative energy.

It brings hurt and pain into the relationship. Rather than being honest and engaging in healthy communication, passive aggressive behavior is a deliberate and masked way of expressing my real feelings.

Honest communication is an important skill to learn, but entirely necessary in order to have a healthy relationship.

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Amy T.

Raised on a dairy farm in upstate NY, I learned to work hard along with my five siblings. I grew up in a very conservative Mennonite-Amish church which shaped a lot of my fundamental core values and beliefs. After moving to Florida to attend college, I married and became mother to five children. Eventually, my unmanageable life came to a crashing halt and I found my way into an Al-Anon recovery program. Recovery has affected every area of my life and I love sharing the things I am learning with others so that they might also find hope for their own recovery.
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