Grand-parenting Without Interfering

27 March 2015 Written by 

After a recent interaction with my own grandchildren, I have been learning about current parenting styles. Gone are the days of describing parents as merely “strict” or “lenient.”

Parenting styles now come with titles and definitions. The following is a partial list of current parenting styles. 

  • Instinctive parenting
  • Attachment parenting
  • Helicopter parenting
  • Authoritative parenting
  • Authoritarian parenting
  • Permissive parenting
  • Uninvolved parenting
  • Positive parenting
  • Conscious parenting
  • Holistic parenting
  • Nurturant parenting
  • Magda Gerber’s RIE approach

I was pretty amazed at what I have discovered. For example, Magda Gerber believes that infants should be trusted to be initiators, explorers and self-learners. Childhood educator Bev Bos advises that we should never draw for a child (with crayons, etc.), but let them discover how to draw on their own. She states that, "Every time we teach a child something, we keep him from inventing it himself….That which we allow him to discover by himself….will remain with him.”

It did not take long for me to realize that each of my own children (three of whom are married and have children of their own) are each raising their children in their own ways, selecting the method that works for them and seems like the best approach.

As for me (the grandma!), my job is to let each family proceed according to their own dictates – without my interference or “sage” advice.

Yep. Just keep my mouth shut. I’m still working on this!

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Raised on a dairy farm in upstate NY, I learned to work hard along with my five siblings. I grew up in a very conservative Mennonite-Amish church which shaped a lot of my fundamental core values and beliefs. After moving to Florida to attend college, I married and became mother to five children. Eventually, my unmanageable life came to a crashing halt and I found my way into an Al-Anon recovery program. Recovery has affected every area of my life and I love sharing the things I am learning with others so that they might also find hope for their own recovery.
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