Elizabeth Viszt BA,MS, a Health & Wellness Coach in New York, is Master of Habit Change around the areas of nutrition, dieting, and personal relationships.
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Eighteen months. That’s the time span that researchers have recommended for healing. Eighteen months for each stress inducing life event. Be it marriage or divorce, birth or death, diagnosis or remission; the fact is that the body doesn’t know “good” stress from “bad” stress. The time allotment is the same for each: eighteen months.
Can you listen when you think you already know it all. Not really. When listening through something and you think, “I already know this,” there is no learning. Subsets of this lack of paying attention to another person are: “I’ve heard this before,” and “Here we go again with this story.” No Progress can be made.
People have many excuses for enabling, so it's a really good question to ask yourself. “Oh, he’s just had a hard day at work and needs to unwind with a few drinks.” Have you ever said that. “My son is very sensitive, so I need to take care of that for him.” Have you said that. We take on the role of an enabler for many reasons and often aren't aware that it's a problem. Enablers believe that pardoning the misbehavior of a loved one, or stepping in to fix something, is just helping out.
Detachment has many meanings, and many applications. One definition of detachment is “a state of being lost in thought” which is synonymous with being pensive, reflective and self-aware. We'll focus on self-aware as protection against hurt.
“Will I be like my dad?” “My whole family are addicts; does this mean I’ll be one too?” For many children of an alcoholic parent, there is the need to “not end up like” that parent. Unfortunately, that which we resist only persists and these children often create in themselves ground that is fertile for alcoholism or other addictive behaviors.
There are people in the world who just have that magic attitude that inspires others. They approach life with a certain curiosity and resilience, asking questions without getting attached to the outcomes. The answer doesn’t matter - they ask away! A “no” merely sends them in the direction of a possibility that they had not yet considered… until that moment. A shift in perspective takes them on a path that results in stretch and growth. Every adventure is viewed as an opportunity.
Wherever I turn, there is a constant reminder that to live in a house that love built is the way to live. ‘Less home and more land’ was my motto when my search began. Somewhere secluded where I could walk out any door and not see another house, maintenance free and well built.
According to researchers from Flinders University in Australia, the more time you spend on Facebook, the less likely you are to like your own body. Whoa. What just happened there? How did time spent on social media correlate to body image?
The brown wicker patio set sits at attention on the cobblestone sidewalk. There are four armchairs tucked under the ornately scrolled table top waiting for the chance to be a part of the conversation. The trees are a mix of haves and have-nots as their leaves chase the random passing car and settle along the sides of the road. Strays dotting the sidewalk and
accumulating in bunches of oranges and reds in the base and feet of the patio set. Two seasons coexisting in this moment.
People are asking about hope. Finding it, renewing it and sharing it. Lacking a “how-to” book or YouTube video, there is no guide when it comes to hope. In fact, add a little fear, and hopeful becomes hopeless. It’s a fine line. The political climate and the usual seasonal holiday preparations have collided this year and there are more people searching for a reason to hope.