Allowing Others The Freedom To Fly

16 January 2017 Written by 

I remember the story of the small boy who tried to help the caterpillar emerge from its cocoon, and in the process of not allowing the caterpillar to struggle its way to freedom, he actually ended up harming the butterfly so that it was never able to fly.

Sometimes “helping” is actually harming. It’s called “enabling.” True compassion allows those I love to become strong and learn to fly by facing their struggles.

When I step in to “rescue” others, I may actually be harming them and preventing them from developing their wings to fly. When I do for others what they could and should be doing for themselves, I am not being compassionate, I am enabling and causing harm.

I must learn to give those I love the right to make their own choices and learn from their own experiences as a result of those choices. Only in this way will they gain the strength to fly!

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Amy T.

Raised on a dairy farm in upstate NY, I learned to work hard along with my five siblings. I grew up in a very conservative Mennonite-Amish church which shaped a lot of my fundamental core values and beliefs. After moving to Florida to attend college, I married and became mother to five children. Eventually, my unmanageable life came to a crashing halt and I found my way into an Al-Anon recovery program. Recovery has affected every area of my life and I love sharing the things I am learning with others so that they might also find hope for their own recovery.
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