1. Go Where I Am Not Appreciated
There has been those times I have gone to celebrations where the atmosphere was less than welcoming. I put on my fake smile and endured the day spent with people who tolerated my presence, but really didn’t care if I was there or not. I have learned to value myself enough to accept that eating Thanksgiving Dinner alone allows me time to enjoy my own company.
2. Be Trapped By An Intoxicated Person.
So many times I have put on my grin-and-bear it attitude and have been where others have gotten into the beer or wine too early in the day. By the time dinner is served they are well past being pleasant or fun to be around. I have promised myself to first always drive myself to any Thanksgiving event and park far away from the other partygoers so I am not blocked in. This allows me to exit quietly if I am cornered by an intoxicated guest.
3. Insist People Come To My Thanksgiving
Being a Mom, I love having all my children together at the same time. What I have learned is there is a big difference between inviting someone and guilting them into coming. Many parents may feel justified doing the latter so everyone can be together. I feel if someone wants to eat turkey with me, he or she will come. I have done the guilting in the past, and for the whole day I could feel resentment from the relative who felt bullied.
4. Eat A Thanksgiving Dinner Without A Safe Guest
This is an age old trick I learned from a friend. Apparently it is done in the hope of keeping family members in line by having an outsider at the table. I have found this method to be effective and also helps the family members to put on their best faces.
5. Be Bored
No one ever said we had to be bored on Thanksgiving. I keep a list of local movie theaters handy. If there are none available, I always keep a pair of earphones in my car and go for a long walk listening to my favorite tunes. A simple deck of cards can be used any number of ways to entertain even the youngest guests. The bottom line is I don’t take on the victim’s role and suffer through a dull Thanksgiving. I have choices and finding solutions is my responsibility.
While no one knows what their Thanksgiving will bring it is best for me to keep me safe and happy. That is what I am grateful for this Thanksgiving that I have learned how important it is to keep myself safe and happy.
Reach Out Recovery Exclusive By: Nadine Knapp