First of all, congratulations on the birth of your little one. What an exciting time for you and your family. Additional kudos for your husband’s five years of sobriety. That is quite a milestone too. Does he feel solid in his recovery with sober supports and an action plan, whether or not he goes to meetings?
In terms of parenting, does he seem to be prepared for the additional responsibility of fatherhood? Have the two of you discussed the ways in which your relationship will change now that there are three of you? Open communication is essential throughout a marriage, but even more so when children join the family.
These are some of the pressures new parents face:
- Child care learning curve
- Less time as a couple than they had before pregnancy
- Change in routine
- Family of origin history and role models around parenting and input from grandparents
- Values with regard to raising a child
What have you decided about sharing the care and feeding of your child? Understand that he is not the ‘babysitter’ who helps you with the baby, but rather, the daddy who is equally responsible for raising and nurturing this little person to adulthood.
How Solid Is His Sobriety How You Can Help
Inquire if he feels that his sobriety is in jeopardy and ask how you can be of additional support. Remind him that you are a team and you are rooting for him as he is for you.
A guide book that can be of assistance is called Parenting For Life by Nina Sidell, MA.
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