Jessica Tried So Hard To Rescue Her 20-Year Old Daughter
Jessica took Marty back many times, even after she stole money and jewelry to support her habit. Jessica finally went to a therapist who asked her when the enabling would end. Her answer was "When you're a parent the decision isn't so easy." She didn't want Marty to take the consequences for stealing, and go to jail. Jessica attended Nar-Anon meetings that assisted her in coping with the pain of watching her daughter self-destruct, as well as remaining determined to detach with love. She decided to stop the enabling.
Therapy Helped Jessica Decide To Press Charges
It wasn't easy to detach or to send an adult child to jail, but jail time turned out to be the catalyst that bounced Marty into recovery. She had had enough, too. For the next 30 years, 12 step meetings and treatment were part of Marty's life. She married a man whom she met in the program and they supported each other in remaining clean.
What Worked For Jessica and Marty
Throughout the years many tears were shed, promises made and broken multiple times. The relationship issues that played out in addiction went beyond substance use. Jessica and Marty engaged in therapy together. There they could safely face family of origin issues, and they were able to improve their communication. Sometimes all you can do is really all you can do. The rest is out of your hands.
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