If what is happening is not okay with me, then I am free to speak up and say so.
Learning to speak up is a big deal. It’s called “Finding my voice.” It took me over half of my life to find my voice. I was a people-pleasing junkie, losing myself in the process. I didn’t know what I wanted any more. I only wanted whatever would please you and make you happy.
I’m still not really proficient at saying what’s okay and what’s not okay for me. It’s something I am still working on. But I have learned to at least pause and think about my responses before I leap. I am learning to respect and love myself, and not feel guilty about taking care of my own needs - physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
It’s a good reminder that I need to consistently ask myself this question: “Is this okay with me?” If what is happening is not okay with me, it’s up to me to set a boundary.
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