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Being Grateful With Addiction In Your Home

23 May 2017 Written by 

Summer is a time of pleasure for so many people. It is a time of being sociable and having fun activities. It is also a time to realize I have much to be grateful for even in the midst of a disease. While I no longer live with the disease of addiction in my home, it still visits often in the form of my adult children. Still, I am able to find a gratitude list to allow me to enjoy whatever season I'm in.

I am grateful that my husband’s alcohol use caused me enough of a problem that I went to Al-Anon.

I was able to find solutions not for only handling alcohol related issues, but also for living a healthier life overall. Al-Anon has helped me in all my affairs.

I am grateful my children and I have an open dialogue about substance use disorder today. It is no longer the elephant in the room. I share my concerns about my children’s substance use. I am probably not the one that will bring them into recovery. I am only responsible to share what I see in a brief and kind manner.

I am grateful for new boundaries.

I reset my boundaries as situations shift and I change. Life is about being flexible and willing to adapt. My boundaries need to keep up with the ever changing landscape of my life. I need only ask myself what do I need? My boundaries are made in accord to whatever I need them to be.

I am grateful recovery is available to all my children.

They have the opportunity to find the same serenity and sanity I have found in my recovery program. While it may take years and a lot of effort, they can work their own programs. It is up to them.

I am grateful for a Higher Power that loves my family far more than I do.

While a mother’s love is strong and deep, it is nothing compared to a Higher Power’s love. I find comfort knowing I am not the only one loving my children, and that their interests are being monitored by a loving source far greater than my human heart.

I am grateful that I am able to not take things personally.

In the past every look, every sigh, every text would cause my heart to be broken and my mind to race to see if I was to blame for someone else's discomfort. I took everything personally. Today I realize nothing is about me, and I am good with that.

I am grateful that I am able to live one day at a time.

Today I am learning to stay in the moment and accept whatever reality is. Unlike that bumper sticker that reads, "Reality continues to ruin my life,"  I have found peace with my reality and work on accepting it daily.

I am grateful I accept reality most of the time.

I am tempted to fantasize about what a better life would look like:

  • one where my children all adore and honor me
  • one where I am fit and funny
  • where there is no addiction plaguing the people I love

 I am able to make changes only when I stay in the real reality. I no longer run away from my own life.

I am grateful for detachment.

When I feel the need to micromanage the people I love that I can practice detachment. I not only detach from the unhealthy people in my life, I have learned it is best to detach from everyone and connect with my Higher Power. Then I am not pulled back and forth by others and can hear what direction my Higher Power wants me to go. I still can show love and affection for everyone, but it allows them and me the freedom to live a life unchained by each other's opinions.

While life with alcohol abuse is difficult to accept, I have found being grateful is one way I can beat this cunning, baffling, and powerful disease. Gratitude keeps me from focusing on the tragedies caused by this disease and gives me a new way to view this wonderful thing called my life. 

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Madeline Schloop

Madeline is the widow of a man who died of alcoholism and the mother of 5 young adults whom she parents with the tools of Al-Anon. Her children continue to be affected by the disease of alcoholism. Her stories  deal with life's daily trials and what has and hasn't worked.
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