Professionals Are Trained To Manage Addiction Family Members Are Not
You may be offering solutions with the best of intentions, only to have your at-risk loved one calling you a mean bully (or a lot worse) as he slams the door on his way out. It’s like being left at the altar. Except worse. The bolter feels absolutely justified in taking off. The one left behind is hurt, baffled, and frightened. That would be me in the old days.
This Is A Really Good Time To Examine What’s Really Happening
It’s so easy to fall into the trap of thinking only of what might happen to someone you love. Will he come back? Is he lost to you forever? Can he survive without you? What if he finds what he’s looking for, and you’re not included? Doesn’t he love you, doesn’t he care? These are the questions that could consume you. But, it’s a waste of time. Frankly, right now he/she doesn’t care about you at all. He only cares about what he feels is right for him.
So What About You
Getting left by a loved one, either in recovery or still active in addiction, is the perfect time for self-examination. I’m not saying this as someone who has never been fired by a son or daughter. Let’s just say, I’ve experienced the door slammed in my face a bunch of times. I used to think I was dying every time I tried to help and was rebuffed rather graphically. My thoughts ran along these lines: Oh My God, it’s terrible. It’s awful. Ungrateful beasts. Now I know why animals in the wild eat their young. That was my old reaction. The new one is: Nice break from the drama. Either all will be well, or not. I am not the one in charge of the outcome. This is a more comfortable place for me to reside. I know that More Will Be Revealed. And I’m okay with that.
What Do You Want For Your Life?
So, if you have been yelled at, rebuffed, walked out on by someone who doesn't like your solutions for their life then this is the time to relish the moment of quiet and find solutions for your own life.
Reach Out Recovery Exclusive by Leslie Glass