Rip the band- aid off
After the shit really hit the fan in my relationship (which by the way would go down in history as one of the most Jerry Springer moments of my life) I came to a moment of clarity. "This doesn’t have to be my life. It really.freaking.doesn’t." I then ripped off the band-aid. It was hard, and seemingly impossible. But I made a clean break by blocking his number, deleting him (and blocking him) on every form of social media, and stopped contact altogether. I didn’t need closure from him, what did he know? He got me into this crazy life, I sure as hell don’t need him to take me out of it. And I never looked back.
Change my address
- Yes, that’s right I moved. I was able to start new and got out of the city that he lived in so he could no longer have even the slightest bit of knowledge about what is going on in my life and potentially interfere. It may seem impossible and maybe a little rash, but it is completely necessary when you have finally freed yourself from a controlling relationship. You need to protect yourself by getting yourself out of there. BYE small town drama HELLO new city and fabulous adventures!
Learn to love myself
- OMG that is so cheesy how many times can you hear that before you want to explode? But it is so true, especially after an abusive relationship. Go for a walk when there is a nice evening breeze. Treat yourself to that little item that you’ve been eyeing. And most importantly don’t talk shit about yourself TO yourself. Don’t look in the mirror and hate what you see, don’t feel awkward approaching someone new because of your insecurities. LOVE YOURSELF... YOU’RE ACTUALLY AMAZING.
Be fabulous people, whatever that means for your life. You’ve only got one and I don’t intend on spending it in the dramatic waste that was my relationship.
Until next time,
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