Some have a slip or two or more, and after those slips, finally "get" it. Many keep slipping and finally drift away. Addiction is a cruel and wily foe, that wrapped in Denial, can keep you in its clutches perpetually.
What Makes Recovery Succeed
But, in order for it to succeed, you have got to let it; you have got to play along.Today I address those of you who are struggling with your romance with spirits, those of you who again and again promise yourselves to quit,who do make it sober for a few days, and then take a drink or two or six, only to wake up the next morning disgusted with yourself seemingly for the hundredth time. Your husband or wife is disgusted with you; your children are disgusted with you; you are ashamed, humiliated by your shocking behavior (whatever it was), and after berating yourself yet again, you determine, but I mean actually determineto stop, this time REALLY, this time FINALLY, this time FOR GOOD. So you go to meetings for a few days in a row, maybe even a week, and then you’re out with the gang, and everyone is having a glass of wine, and you think to yourself, “I’ll have just one,” and you’re a goner. You make if for a week, maybe two, but you never manage to get even that thirty day chip. (Many Alcoholics Anonymous groups give chips for periods of time spent sober.)
What Is One Day At A Time
There would seem to be something inside you hell-bent to self-destruct. They at AA tell you:one day at a time; that is to say, don’t think about never drinking again, because that will seem impossible; just think about one day, just think One Day at a Time.
Can I Last One More Hour Without A Drink
I say, if that isn’t working for you, just think about one hour. Can I last one more hour without a drink? And, if that is too long, reduce it to thirty minutes, or fifteen, or just one. Can I last one minute more without a drink? Sure you can. You can indeed last one minute more without a drink. And during that minute, call your sponsor, if you have one, or call any friend who knows you are trying to stop and is on your side. BE CAREFUL HERE. DON’T PICK THE ONE WHO WILL GIVE YOU PERMISSION. That is not a friend; that is an enemy. And trust me, you can make the phone call, and then drink anyway. Don’t not make the phone call because you really really really want to drink. Just call. Talk. Keep talking. Miracles happen: the urge may pass, while you’re talking about how strong it is. Honest. Try it. You have nothing to lose.
Content Originally Published By: Rachel Fast